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drugs is a serious problem and using drugs is not the
same as being addicted to drugs. In most cases addiction
happens over time and after regular use. Some teens may
get addicted faster than others Using any illegal drugs
(sometimes called 'designer' drugs) is risky and
should be avoided. There is no way of knowing what they
actually contain. They may have very dangerous chemicals
that can cause damage to the brain or even death and this
can happen at first use and before addiction starts. |
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Don't react immediately! Give
yourself time to calm down if you are upset, and to think
through what is happening. Strong reactions due to fear
are common but they don't help. Don't ridicule or lecture.
Getting angry can close the door on communication and
may harm your relationship with your teenager. |
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Don't regard this situation
as a family disgrace. Recovery is possible just as it
is with other illnesses. |
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Try to get a picture of what
is happening in your child's life. Give your teenager
a chance to tell you what happened, for example, 'We'd
like you to give us an idea what was going on in your
life.' |
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Find out what kinds of drugs
are being used and how they are being used. The best way
to find out is to ask your teenager. Discuss with him
what he considers to be the benefits and consequences
of using drugs. Is he clearly aware of what is likely
to happen if he uses drugs, such as the effect on his
family relationships, education, and future chances of
getting work? |
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If your teenager
is apprehended give him moral support but let him see
that it is his responsibility. Let him deal with the consequences
of his behavior, including picking up the bill, making
arrangements, keeping appointments etc. |
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Separate the behavior from
the person. You may not approve of what your teenager
is doing but you still need to show your love and care.
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It is important to tell your
teenager that you are concerned about his wellbeing and
that you will be seeking substance abuse treatment for
him. |
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During recovery,
encourage teens to engage in after-school activities with
adult supervision. If they cannot participate in sports
or other extracurricular school activities, part-time
employment or volunteer work can build self-esteem. |
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Don't expect an immediate,
100-percent recovery. Like any illness, there is a period
of convalescence with a brain disorder. There may be relapses
and times of tension and resentment among family members.
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Do offer love, support,
and understanding during treatment and recovery. |
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| BALANCING YOUR VALUES AND YOUR WORDS
AS YOU TALK TO YOUR TEEN |
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Your teenager
probably knows, but remind him what your values are and
what you will allow in your house. This can be a tricky
issue and will depend on how old your teenager is. |
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With older teenagers
you may have to come to terms with the fact that they
are making their own life choices. However, if they won't
give up the drug you still have the right to say that
they are not to use it at home. |
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Some
parents tell their teenagers to give it up or they will
have to leave home. If you say this, you need to be sure
that it is what you really want and that you mean what
you say. By saying this you may be pushing your teenager
into a more risky situation. |
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